What lead me to become 
a Life Coach for Men

Explore the pivotal moments—from a late-night bookshelf epiphany to trading the corner office for honest conversations—that pulled me out of corporate life and into my calling as a life coach for men.

The Meaning Behind the Name

Aruka is a Hebrew word that means “healing” or “restoration.” It first appears
in the Old Testament during the rebuilding of Jerusalem’s walls – a physical
restoration that symbolised something far deeper: the return of identity, purpose,
and dignity.

This imagery deeply resonated with me.
Through my own journey and the stories of countless others, I’ve come to believe
that we are born whole – yet along the way, life chips away at that wholeness. In
pursuit of acceptance, success, or safety, we learn to silence parts of ourselves.

We become fragmented, not by design but by survival.
The work of coaching, as I see it, is not to ‘fix’ people – it’s to help them
remember. To restore what was always there beneath the performance, pressure,
and pretence.

The name Aruka honours that calling.
It reflects my faith, my belief in the possibility of renewal, and my commitment to
walking alongside those ready to live – and lead – from their truest self.

I am Patrick – Founder & Lead Coach at Aruka

Aruka was born out of my own personal restoration journey.

After 26 years in the corporate world – much of it in leadership roles across IT, franchising, and operations – I began to realise that something had shifted. What once felt fulfilling no longer held the same meaning. The success I had built began to feel like a structure without a foundation. It was in that moment of questioning that I discovered the world of reinvention  and coaching.

Becoming a certified Reinvention Practitioner opened the door. But it wasn’t until I trained as an Integral Coach that I understood what had been missing all along.

Coaching didn’t just offer a new skillset – it offered a new lens through which to see myself, my work, and the men around me.

As I journeyed deeper into my own coaching work, I realised that the discontent I felt professionally was only part of the story. Many other aspects of my life were also calling for change – from how I related to others, to how I led, to the identity I had crafted to be ‘successful.’ I was fortunate to have a trusted coaching community and a strong spiritual foundation to support me during that time.
But what struck me most was this: if I, with all my access to networks and support, found this season so disorienting, how many men were navigating it alone?

This became the foundation of my individual coaching practice – to support men in midlife who, like me, are ready to trade performance for purpose. Men who have followed all the rules of success, only to wake up and wonder, “Is this it?” Men who long to rediscover their identity, restore their relationships, and lead from a place of presence rather than pressure. Too often, men are offered very little support in midlife – their emotional needs hidden under layers of responsibility, conformity, and silent struggle. At Aruka, we begin to change that.

At the same time, I began to reflect on patterns in my corporate journey. Time and again, I had been deployed into underperforming or disconnected teams – sometimes lacking
leadership, sometimes operating in silos, often misaligned with the broader organisational culture. My role was to bring clarity, cohesion and momentum. I loved this work. No two teams were ever the same – each one required curiosity, humility, and a tailored approach to restore their unity and potential.

This is the second specialisation of Aruka – restoring teams to health, alignment, and performance. I partner with businesses and leaders who are willing to confront dysfunction, rebuild trust, and re-establish a shared sense of purpose. This work is not about quick fixes or cosmetic change. It’s about doing the deep, human work that allows teams to thrive sustainably.
In both individual and team coaching, Aruka is rooted in the same conviction:

Restoration is possible.
It’s not about going back to who you were – it’s about becoming who you were meant to be.

Core Values

We believe people and teams are not broken—they are often just disconnected from their original design. 

Our work is not about discarding the past, but about restoring the truest version of self and purpose.

 Whether coaching individuals or
teams, we help uncover what’s already there, waiting to be brought back to life.

"What if your future success lies not in striving for something different, but in returning to what you were always meant to be?"

We challenge superficial success and confront ego, dysfunction, and misalignment with compassionate candour. 

Our coaching is not soft—it’s real. It
invites people and teams to shed their masks and show up truthfully, aligned in who they are and how they lead.

"We don’t coach masks. We coach men and teams willing to confront what’s been buried, denied, or ignored."

Restoration demands commitment. We walk alongside our clients—but we don’t
carry them. 

We support growth, not dependency. The process requires
ownership, action, and vulnerability, and we’re there to provide the structure and
safety for transformation to unfold.

"The path is yours to walk—but you don’t have to walk it alone."

Everything we do is rooted in meaning. Quietly threaded through our approach is a respect for faith, calling, and the unseen.

 We help leaders and teams
reconnect not just with what they do, but with who they are and why they’re here.

It’s about leading from within, with clarity and presence.

"We restore not just what you do—but who you are, and why you’re here."

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