Richard Blake thought he needed a dramatic shift.
When the restlessness crept in — the sleepless nights, the quiet resentment toward always being the provider, the distance in his marriage — he assumed he was on the brink of something big.
Something had to change.
He just didn’t know how, or where to begin.
But the shift didn’t come from a lightning bolt or a breakthrough strategy.
It began during a coaching conversation — the kind that doesn’t try to fix things, but asks better questions.
What are you noticing in your body at the end of the day?
What stories are you rehearsing before bed?
And then the invitation:
“Would you be open to tracking just a few things each night — not to fix anything, but to start noticing?”
That night, Richard wrote three short lines in a notebook.
When we feel stuck, it’s easy to believe that only something seismic can move us forward.
A relocation. A reinvention of how we show up at work or at home. A sweeping overhaul of our mindset or strategy.
But here’s the quieter truth: Most transformation doesn't begin with a leap.
It begins with a pivot.
This is a truth echoed in everything from James Clear’s Atomic Habits to Jeff Olson’s The Slight Edge: lasting change is the result of small, repeated actions — not giant, unsustainable efforts.
And while it may feel too soft or insignificant, Olson is blunt about that:
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. They don't like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.”
In other words, it’s not about enjoying the practice. It’s about staying aligned with what matters most — even when it feels quiet, slow, or unglamorous.
BJ Fogg, author of Tiny Habits, echoes this by reminding us that motivation is unreliable — but small, consistent behaviours can anchor us when motivation fails.
And in the world of performance and leadership, we know this too.
From the Kaizen philosophy in business to the HBR-backed principle of compound habits, the evidence is clear: micro-practices move the needle more than bold declarations.
So that night, when Richard wrote:
One thing that went well today
One emotion he noticed
One thing he was grateful for
...he wasn’t solving his problems.
He was shifting his posture.
He was interrupting the depletion with awareness.
If you’re anything like Richard, your life is already full.
You lead a business. You’re present for your kids. You train hard. You deliver.
But that’s exactly why small, intentional habits matter more than grand gestures. They don’t require you to stop your life — they meet you in it.
They work not because they’re flashy, but because they’re faithful.
And over time, consistency becomes compound interest for your well-being.
It’s deceptively simple.
Every evening, before you close your laptop or collapse into bed, write down:
One thing that went well today
(Even if it was tiny. Especially if it was tiny.)
One emotion you noticed in yourself
(It doesn’t have to make sense. Just name it.)
One thing you’re grateful for
(Try not to repeat the obvious ones every night.)
No analysis. No pressure. Just a practice of noticing.
In a world obsessed with output, this is an act of restoration.
If you're holding out for the big reinvention, I want to invite you to start smaller.
What 15-minute practice could open a window of clarity for you?
What micro-habit might soften your inner posture just enough to create movement?
You don't need to overhaul your life.
You need to listen to it.
And sometimes, all it takes is three lines.
Curious where to start?
If this article resonated and you'd like to explore coaching or simply talk through where you're at, I’d love to hear from you.
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Richard Blake lies wide awake.
It’s 3:17am.
He turns over carefully so he doesn’t wake Mariska. Her steady breathing is a kind of reassurance – but also a reminder. Of how far apart they’ve drifted. Of how alone he feels even when she’s lying beside him.
He exhales.
But the mind keeps racing.
Work.
Always work.
The board meeting was earlier this week. It came and went – it was fine. Just… fine. Nothing blew up. But nothing shifted either.
He walked out of that room and sat in his car with the same dull ache he’d had going in. No momentum. No spark. No clarity. Just more numbers, more expectation, and the same unspoken worry about where ThriveWorks Solutions is really heading.
It used to energise him – back when it was about vision, building, making something that mattered. Now? It’s become something else. A machine with moving parts that never sleep. The people don’t seem to care like they used to. Culture feels transactional. And he can’t remember the last time he came home excited about anything.
Speaking of home… there’s Luke – his 15-year-old son.
Teenage tension? Probably. But something deeper too. The way Luke looks at him – sometimes with admiration, other times with an edge. It’s like he’s not sure if Richard is the man he wants to become, or the man he wants to avoid becoming.
That one cuts deep.
He sits up quietly. Pads down the hall to the kitchen.
Boils the kettle. No caffeine – rooibos will do.
His mind keeps looping back to the same mantra –
“You’ve got to provide. You’ve got to provide. You’ve got to provide.”
It feels like it’s all about money.
It’s about giving his family the life they deserve.
He promised Mariska they’d do Croatia next year – something about the blue of the Adriatic and olive trees in summer. But if he’s honest, they’ll be lucky if they can swing a week in Plettenberg Bay.
Varsity fees for Emma – their 18-year-old daughter – are looming. Will she stay in res? Does she need a car? What will it all cost?
He tells himself it’s just about the money – but he knows deep down it’s not. It’s the pressure of holding everything up. The fear of failing them. The sense that his worth is tied to what he can provide.
The weight is relentless.
The maths doesn’t add up.
And underneath it all, a quieter question creeps in:
What happened to the man I used to be?
To the fire, the spark, the hope?
He’s grateful, of course. He really is.
But he’s also exhausted. Angry at himself for being here. Resentful that his life—and his perceived worth—have been reduced to just providing.
He misses the days when life felt a bit more… alive. When joy wasn’t something he had to schedule or justify. When his dreams felt closer, not like echoes from a former life.
And so he sits at the kitchen counter in the half-light, stirring his tea, asking the question many men ask but rarely speak aloud:
“Surely there’s more than this?”
There is more.
But it’s not always what we expect.
Sometimes it begins with making space for the questions—before the answers come.
What if your exhaustion, your anger, your quiet resentment—aren’t signs you’re broken, but signs you’ve been carrying too much for too long? What if they’re not failures, but an invitation?
To slow down.
To turn inward.
To rebuild from something deeper than pressure and performance.
You don’t need to stay stuck in the spin.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
If this story resonates with you, you’re not alone.
Men everywhere—especially those in their 40s and 50s—carry this kind of quiet weight. You don’t need to solve it all on your own. Coaching offers a space to begin untangling it. No pressure. No performance. Just space to be real.
📩 If you’d like to explore this, reach out. Or just reply to this with a simple: “That’s me.” I’ll take it from there.
#MaleMidlife #LifePurpose #Stuckness #Freedom
It’s been just over six months since I left corporate life behind. After more than two decades—26 years, in fact—inside large organisations, I took the leap into solopreneurship. I knew the move would be significant, but I hadn’t fully appreciated how deep the shift would run.
Leaving corporate isn’t just about walking away from a salary or a structured work environment. It’s far more layered than that. Yes, there’s the financial security of a predictable income. Yes, there’s the daily support that comes from having departments, teams, and well-defined systems around you. And of course, there’s the human connection—being part of a team, a bigger engine.
But the real transition began the moment I asked myself: what is financial security, really?
I used to think it meant having enough money set aside to provide certainty—a sense that the future was somehow “handled.” But the more I sat with it, the more I saw how elusive that certainty really is. We can accumulate wealth and still be deeply insecure. Life has a way of disrupting even our best-laid financial plans. So what exactly was I securing? Against what?
The harder I looked, the more I realised this: what I truly value isn’t security. It’s meaning.
I’m grateful for all those years of financial stability, but they never defined me. They propped up a lifestyle, sure—but they didn’t align with the deeper question of who I’m here to be.
And so I found myself in a new space—one where I’m not chasing financial security as much as I’m exploring personal alignment. I’ve chosen to serve men in leadership, particularly those navigating midlife transitions. I’ve chosen to work with teams who want to operate with more purpose. And yes, I’ve also chosen the path where income isn’t guaranteed, where consultants often joke we’re only three months from bankruptcy.
But with that comes something else: energy.
I wake up in the morning with more clarity and conviction than I have in years. I even joke that every area of my life is thriving—except my bank account, which is currently on a bit of a fast.
It’s forced me to re-evaluate what I actually need. What I used to call “essentials” now feel more like clutter—things I’d acquired out of habit, comfort, or image rather than true necessity. Letting go of them hasn’t been easy. There’s a kind of tearing that happens when you start removing long-held routines, possessions, and assumptions. But as painful as the initial letting go can be, it’s been liberating. I feel lighter. Less distracted. More focused.
I’ve also had to confront my own conditioning. I catch myself feeling guilty if I’m not at my desk during “normal” business hours—even though I often work early mornings, nights, and weekends. I’ve always said it’s not about the hours; it’s about the outcome. And yet, decades of programming still whisper, “you should be working.”
More than anything, this journey has confronted me with fear.
Fear of failing.
Fear of financial instability.
Fear of changing too much, too fast.
But in confronting those fears, I’ve also uncovered truths. Some fears are based on things that were once true, but no longer are. Some are lies I’ve believed about myself. And some are just outdated assumptions I never questioned until now.
This is the quiet gift of stepping out of the familiar: it gives you a chance to rewrite your way of being.
From that space, new opportunities have begun to emerge—opportunities that once felt too distant to even contemplate. I’m not clinging so tightly anymore. I’m more open to what might arise. I’m learning to walk with fear, but not be led by it.
The first six months of solopreneurship have brought deep internal shifts. Mindset. Lifestyle. Priorities. And while there’s still a long way to go, I’m profoundly grateful. Not because the path is easy—but because it’s honest.
This isn’t a critique of the corporate world. It’s simply an honest look at how I was living inside it, and the changes that became possible only when I left.
Now, I look ahead with a new perspective—on life, on purpose, on what I actually need to make meaning. I still care about money, but I no longer serve it. I’m more curious about where my skills, experience, and calling might be needed. And for the first time in a long time, I feel truly alive.
In today’s volatile business world, leadership is not just a role — it’s a pressure cooker. And for many male executives in midlife, the pressure is not only external. It’s internal.
You’re carrying the weight of business responsibility, family obligations, ageing parents, and the creeping question, "Where is this all heading?"
That’s why executive coaching is no longer a nice-to-have. It’s a necessity.
Coaching offers something rare: space. Space to think clearly. To process pressure. To rediscover purpose. And it’s not just talk — the data backs it up.
For men in leadership, midlife can trigger a unique kind of identity shake-up. You’ve achieved a lot, but you’re not sure it’s what you truly wanted. The energy is lower. The stakes feel higher. And the margin for error feels non-existent.
Executive coaching doesn’t add more to your plate — it helps you clear it.
According to a Manchester Inc. study of Fortune 1000 executives, coaching delivered:
Improved working relationships with direct reports (77%)
Better relationships with immediate supervisors (71%)
Increased teamwork (67%)
Higher job satisfaction (61%)
Improved organisational commitment (44%)
And a 53% rise in overall productivity
And most strikingly, those who invested in coaching saw an average return of 570% ROI.
In some cases, that return exceeded 788%, accounting for gains in productivity, retention, and morale.
Now imagine what that level of clarity and alignment could do — not just for your business, but for your life.
When a man in midlife starts to drift — disconnected, uncertain, or stretched too thin — it doesn’t stay private. It shows up in the business: decision fatigue, conflict avoidance, disengaged leadership, and stalled momentum.
Executive coaching is one of the most effective ways to restore clarity and direction before the drift becomes decline.
When senior leaders are coached well:
Culture stabilises
Team cohesion improves
Strategic focus sharpens
Communication flows more easily
People stay longer — and perform better
In short, when the leader is restored, so is the organisation.
Too often, organisations wait until a leader burns out, implodes, or exits before intervening. But the smarter move is earlier — when the questions are still whispering.
And for many male executives in midlife, those whispers are growing louder:
"Is this success, or just survival?"
"I’m providing, but am I really present?"
"How do I lead others when I’m not clear on where I’m going?"
Coaching provides the tools — and the time — to wrestle with those questions in a safe, constructive space. It’s not about rescuing. It’s about realigning.
For male leaders in midlife, the stakes are deeply personal and highly professional. Executive coaching is one of the few interventions that honours both.
It’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of wisdom.
When you invest in coaching, you invest in clarity, capacity, and long-term contribution — not just for the leader, but for everyone they lead.
I work with executive men navigating midlife, identity questions, and leadership challenges. Together, we uncover what’s been buried under pressure — and help restore the confidence and clarity you need to lead well.
📩 DM me to set up a no-obligation discovery conversation.
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For years, I lived by "the rules": high-powered job, luxurious lifestyle, upmarket family neighbourhood. But as I hit midlife, I began to feel a nagging emptiness, like something was missing.
For many men in leadership, midlife prompts unsettling questions. Renowned psychologist Erik Erikson identified this phase as “generativity vs. stagnation,” where people feel driven to make meaningful contributions or risk feeling aimless. Studies show that around midlife, both men & women experience heightened self-reflection.
⏭️A Time for Reinvention, Not Crisis
This period need not be a “crisis” but rather a doorway to reinvention. In ‘Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes’, author William Bridges highlights that every transition has three stages:
1️⃣ an ending,
2️⃣ an in-between phase, &
3️⃣ a new beginning.
Embracing midlife changes can set the stage for “realignment,” where executives connect to what truly fulfils them. Dr Carol Ryff’s research on psychological well-being shows that a sense of purpose & personal growth is key to thriving through life’s stages.
Reinvention doesn’t mean discarding past successes; rather, it’s about shedding what no longer fits, reimagining career & personal life in ways that reflect current aspirations. This might involve nurturing close relationships, rediscovering passions or prioritising health. When directed intentionally, midlife can be an energising pivot to reclaim one’s inner drive.
⏭️Benefits of a Successfully Navigated Transition
Embracing reinvention can significantly impact mental health, relationships & professional satisfaction. Research from the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of human flourishing, reveals that a renewed sense of purpose in midlife is linked to well-being & resilience. By navigating this phase with self-awareness, leaders can create a more meaningful life.
Managing this transition successfully allows men to approach their later years with excitement rather than resignation. In ‘Falling Upward’, Richard Rohr emphasises that midlife offers a chance to build a “second-half identity,” rooted in authenticity rather than achievements, making leaders more resilient & engaged at work & home.
⏭️ Taking Charge of Your Reinvention
If you find yourself at this crossroads, consider what life could look like if you realigned with what truly matters. Embracing this chance for reinvention means avoiding the pitfalls of a midlife crisis & setting a foundation for a life rich in purpose.
This journey doesn’t need to be taken alone. If you’re ready to explore how realignment could renew your life, reach out for a supportive conversation. Together, we can map a path toward clarity, renewed energy & a deeper sense of fulfilment.
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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson 🥇
For many men in leadership, midlife comes with a reckoning. You’ve followed the script - built a successful career, raised a family and accumulated the outward signs of success. Yet, beneath the surface, there’s a nagging sense of misalignment.
This isn’t failure ‼️ It’s the hidden cost of living for societal expectations instead of your true self.
$$ The Cost of Pretending $$
Conforming to external demands - driving the right car, taking the right holidays and projecting the image of success - often comes at the expense of authenticity. The relentless effort to "fit in" can rob you of your identity, leaving you feeling lost in a life that isn’t truly yours.
Renowned author Brené Brown notes that vulnerability - the courage to show up as your authentic self - is the key to meaningful connections and personal fulfilment. Yet society discourages men from showing vulnerability, asking them instead to project strength, even when it’s a façade. 🎭
$$The Impact of Living for Others$$
Living up to expectations creates a cycle of stress, dissatisfaction and disconnection. Studies show that men who suppress their true selves are more likely to experience depression, anxiety and even physical health issues. Relationships often suffer too, as the pressure to perform at work leaves little energy for loved ones. 👨👩👧👦
It’s no surprise then that many men hit midlife questioning,
“Is this all there is ⁉️ ”
$$A Call to Rediscovery$$
The good news? Midlife doesn’t have to be a crisis; it can be a turning point. By letting go of the masks and reconnecting with your true self, you can lead a more purposeful, fulfilling life.
Authors like Richard Rohr (Falling Upward) and Viktor Frankl (Man’s Search for Meaning) highlight that the second half of life offers an opportunity to step away from societal roles and toward authenticity. This requires courage, reflection and the willingness to realign your priorities.
Midlife is your chance to stop conforming and start living authentically.
What would life look like if you were true to yourself?
If this resonates with you, let’s talk. Share your thoughts or reach out for a conversation - because the greatest accomplishment of all is reclaiming the man you were always meant to be!
#MentalHealthMatters #ItsOkayToNotBeOkay #EndTheStigma #PersonalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #AuthenticLeadership #ReinventYourself #PurposeAlignment
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As the year draws to a close, I’m reminded of the excitement I used to feel - leaving the pressures of work behind. Disconnecting from projects, budgets and deliverables, even for a few short weeks, felt like a rare gift 🎁 .
It was a time to mend family relationships strained by life’s demands, to escape the city and immerse myself in a seaside holiday or inland camping spot. These places, shared with others seeking the same solace, became sanctuaries of rejuvenation.
I recall the joy of packing the car and trailer, preparing to head off. My kids could run free, embrace their independence and bask in the fresh air. My wife and I reconnected, rediscovering the harmony often lost in daily life’s rush. But is this harmony only tied to holidays?
🌟 Or can we bring some of that joy into everyday life?
🌟 What changes would it take?
🌟 What control would I need to relinquish?
🌟 What anxieties about the future could I let go of?
Many midlife men survive from one weekend or holiday to the next. How do we bring joy into our messy, demanding daily lives? How can we be more present at work, engaged with our families at home and attuned to ourselves in moments of reflection?
Surviving is not thriving. Thriving requires intentionality and discipline. Viktor Frankl, in "Man’s Search for Meaning", reminds us that purpose and meaning are critical to fulfilment. Thriving requires breaking free from societal expectations and embracing our unique selves.
Isn’t this the life worth seeking ❓
As the year ends, energy often depletes faster than it can be replenished🪫. Tolerance wanes and grace diminishes, impacting relationships at work and home. In the past I found myself withdrawing, seeking distractions that pull me away from those who matter most.
I tell myself, “All I need is a holiday.” But this cycle repeats every year.
Surely, there’s more to life than this?
Eckhart Tolle’s "The Power of Now" offers a vital insight: presence and mindfulness transform how we engage with life’s demands and joys.
The truth is, there is more.
A harmonious, joyful life is possible, but it requires openness to change. Richard Rohr, in "Falling Upward", emphasises midlife as a time of profound growth when we embrace deeper truths. Letting go of the image that has defined us in our careers and communities allows our authentic selves to emerge🪞.
This holiday season, I invite you to reflect and aim for a different ending to 2025.
If you’re ready to improve relationships at work and home and seek a fulfilling life, let’s connect for an exploratory conversation. Take the first step toward thriving.
Some words have a way of sticking with us. Over the past two weeks, I’ve felt this passage echo through my own thoughts, and I’ve even had the privilege of sharing it with clients. Maybe this is exactly what needs to be heard right now?
💡 The Man in the Arena – Theodore Roosevelt 💡
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly..."
This excerpt from Roosevelt’s 1910 speech, Citizenship in a Republic, still rings true today.
💭 To every man who steps into the arena - who faces the doubts, the struggles, the messy, uncertain path toward purpose - I see you. I respect you. I stand with you. 🎩👏
Midlife can be a battleground - filled with questions, transitions, and challenges that demand more than just endurance. It demands courage. And it’s always better when you’re not standing alone.
As an ICF-credentialed coach, I specialise in guiding men through this chapter - helping them rediscover their fire, their purpose, their WHY.
⚡ Dare greatly. Reignite your life. ⚡
If you're ready to step forward, reach out. Let’s begin your journey toward the life you were meant to lead. 🚀
There’s a moment every serious mountaineer knows – not when you’re lacing your boots, or plotting your route, but when you pause halfway up, heart pounding, and look back. The distance below is staggering. The summit is still far. You’re suspended between who you were and who you’re becoming.
That moment, oddly, feels a lot like the one many men face when they’re offered coaching.
From the outside, everything looks fine. Successful career. High-performing team. Well-tailored suit. A full calendar. But internally? That’s often where the terrain gets rugged – full of silent questions, unseen fatigue, and the creeping suspicion that the peak they’re chasing might not be the one that matters most.
Yet when coaching is suggested, many men resist.
Not because they’re arrogant.
Not because they’re closed-minded.
But because it’s personal.
1. The myth of self-sufficiency.
We’ve been taught that strength looks like stoicism. That real leaders go it alone. Coaching threatens that illusion – offering a mirror instead of a sword.
2. The ego’s last stand.
When you’ve built an identity around competence, performance and control, asking for help can feel like a betrayal of the very traits that made you successful.
3. The fear of what lies beneath.
Coaching doesn’t just polish the surface – it digs. And that digging might uncover doubts, regrets, or questions long buried under deadlines and deliverables.
The very resistance is the signal.
Men who don’t fear coaching probably don’t need it as much as those who do. Because resistance is not the enemy – it’s a compass. It points directly to the places where growth is most possible.
The best climbers aren’t fearless. They’re those who learn to trust the guide, carry only what’s essential, and keep climbing even when it gets uncomfortable.
Marriages start to deepen, not just function.
Teams move from compliant to committed.
Health, both physical and mental, begins to matter again.
Faith and meaning find a place in leadership.
Life starts to feel aligned, not just managed.
Coaching doesn’t fix you. You’re not broken.
But it helps you stop denying parts of yourself that have long been calling for your attention.
Maybe you’ve been offered coaching and felt that flare of resistance. Maybe you’re considering it for someone else and sense their discomfort. That’s normal. It’s even healthy. But it’s not a reason to retreat. It’s a reason to pause – and then move forward.
Because coaching isn’t a sign of weakness.
It’s a sign you’re ready for a different kind of strength.
💭 Men – have you ever resisted coaching? What held you back?
If this resonates, reply to this post with a 🙋 or share a word that describes what’s stopped you (e.g. "fear", "time", "not sure").
📩 If you’re a leader, coach, or friend who sees the quiet struggle in someone else, reach out. I offer obligation-free conversations to explore whether coaching might serve them – or you.
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I offer , a keynote designed to help corporate men break the stigma, build resilience, and take practical steps toward mental well-being.
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Something’s changed.
You used to wake up with drive. Purpose. Clarity.
Now? It’s harder to concentrate. Your fuse is shorter. Your confidence wobbles in ways it never used to. Even the gym sessions you used to rely on to keep you sharp leave you feeling flat.
You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.
There’s a silent shift happening in many men’s lives in their 40s and 50s — and most don’t even know it has a name.
What is Andropause?
Andropause – sometimes called “male menopause” – refers to the gradual decline in testosterone levels in men, usually beginning in their late 30s or 40s. Unlike menopause, this shift is slower and less abrupt. But it’s no less real.
As testosterone levels drop, they can take a man’s energy, motivation, focus, sex drive, and even his sense of identity with them. Many men describe it as a fog — one they can’t quite explain, shake, or even name.
And because most men weren’t taught to talk about hormones — or admit to any dip in vitality — this change often gets masked as burnout, laziness, or a midlife crisis.
But make no mistake: the shift is real — with physiological roots that often ripple into psychological and emotional wellbeing. And for high-performing men in leadership, the stakes are even higher.
How It Shows Up in Purpose, Relationships, and Leadership
I see this regularly in the men I coach — men who have achieved a great deal but suddenly find themselves misaligned, unsure, and low on fire. Often, they’re battling on multiple fronts:
What makes this worse is the cultural silence around it. The men I work with are not lacking courage — they’re often just lacking language. Once we name it, things begin to shift.
Andropause vs. Midlife Crisis
It’s important to draw a distinction here.
A midlife crisis is often existential — it’s about questioning who we are, what we’ve built, and whether it matters.
Andropause is hormonal — a physiological shift in the body.
But here’s the twist: they often arrive at the same time. One amplifies the other. That’s why it can feel so disorienting, even to the strongest of men.
Understanding both is key to navigating either.
A Personal Note
In my forties, I noticed how my energy levels began to wane dramatically. A significant part of my identity had always been tied to being a sportsman — I played multiple sports, took part in triathlons, and even completed full Ironman and multi-day races. That drive, that hunger to train and push hard, was central to who I thought I was.
Then, quite suddenly, it disappeared. I no longer wanted to train, and I found myself declining invitations to events I’d once jumped at. At first, it was disorienting. But with time and honest reflection, I began to recalibrate. I realised those events and that intensity didn’t define me — they never did.
Today, I still enjoy many of the same activities — but the motivation is different. It’s no longer about proving anything. It’s about presence, gratitude, and the sheer joy of movement and fresh air. This was just one part of the broader recalibration I’ve experienced — and it unlocked a new level of enjoyment and meaning that I couldn’t see before.
So, What Can You Do?
You don’t have to suffer in silence — and this isn’t about “managing decline.” It’s about regaining clarity and direction.
Here’s where to start:
That’s where I come in.
I specialise in helping men in midlife realign their identity, leadership, relationships, and purpose — with courage and honesty. Because it’s not just about fixing a dip in energy. It’s about reawakening the man underneath it all.
You’re Not the Only One
If any part of this landed for you, take a breath.
This isn’t weakness. It’s a call to pay attention.
Men weren’t made to walk these seasons alone. And what you’re facing might not be failure — it might simply be andropause… and a moment that matters more than you realise.
💭 Want to talk this through?
If you’re in your 40s or 50s and feeling the shift, let’s talk. No pressure — just a conversation to explore what might be going on for you.
📩 Message me directly to set up a confidential, obligation-free chat.
🔁 And if this made you think of someone in your life — a friend, colleague or loved one — send it their way. You could be giving them the language they didn’t know they needed.
Let’s normalise this conversation. Because what’s been ignored for too long is costing too many men too much.
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