The Restoration Journal

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson 🥇 For many men in leadership, midlife comes with a reckoning. You’ve followed the script - built a successful career, raised a family...

As the year draws to a close, I’m reminded of the excitement I used to feel - leaving the pressures of work behind. Disconnecting from projects, budgets and deliverables, even for a few short weeks, felt like a rare gift 🎁 . It was a time to mend family relationships strained by life&#...

Some words have a way of sticking with us. Over the past two weeks, I’ve felt this passage echo through my own thoughts, and I’ve even had the privilege of sharing it with clients. Maybe this is exactly what needs to be heard right now? 💡 The Man in the Arena – Theodore Roo...

There’s a moment every serious mountaineer knows – not when you’re lacing your boots, or plotting your route, but when you pause halfway up, heart pounding, and look back. The distance below is staggering. The summit is still far. You’re suspended between who you were and who...

Something’s changed. You used to wake up with drive. Purpose. Clarity. Now? It’s harder to concentrate. Your fuse is shorter. Your confidence wobbles in ways it never used to. Even the gym sessions you used to rely on to keep you sharp leave you feeling flat. You’re not broken. And you’re no...

Many men ask me how coaching actually helps—and what it’s really like to face change when you feel stuck. Toward the end of this article, I share a piece of my own story—because I believe lived experience speaks louder than theory. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the climb ahead, keep rea...

For years, I looked successful on the outside - but inside, I questioned whether I was truly enough. Like many men, I carried the weight of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the quiet fear that one day, I’d be ‘found out.’ Yet, here’s what I’ve learned: self-doubt is not pe...

For years, I built a life that looked successful—career achievements, financial stability, a happy family, and the ‘right’ lifestyle. But increasingly, something felt off. I was surviving, not thriving. Looking back, midlife wasn’t the crisis I had feared; it was an incredible blessing and o...

In the spirit of vulnerability, I want to share my own experience with imposter syndrome—because for years, I lived it. 💭 The Moment of Realisation Mid-2022, I sat frozen at my desk, struggling to write a report for my executive team. My mind was empty. A thought hit me: I cannot...

‼️Conformer‼️ Building on my previous post, I found myself reflecting on the hidden cost of conformity in a man's life. As I pondered this, Snow’s 1992 hit "Informer" kept playing in my head. That sparked a thought: what if the lyrics were reimagined to explore the struggles of a 'Conforme...

In rowing, success isn’t just about stamina or strength - it’s about clarity, respect, and alignment. No role is greater or lesser; without each person contributing effectively, the boat doesn’t move forward. Synchronisation and mutual respect ensure energy isn’t wasted, and ...

📜 They have the credentials.💼 They have the experience.🚲 They have the technical skills to deliver. And yet, the team just isn’t performing. If you’re a CEO, business owner, or HR lead, this story might feel familiar. The culture survey flags poor engagement. Exit...

When Uber launched in South Africa, it was seen as a game-changer—bringing innovation, convenience, and new economic opportunity. Over time, however, the narrative shifted. Headlines have highlighted system abuse, driver dissatisfaction, and eroding customer trust. Though not formal employees,...

In many teams, conflict is viewed as threatening and destructive — something to be avoided, managed, or silenced. After all, “good” teams get along, right? Not quite. In truth, the absence of conflict often signals something far more dangerous than disagreement: conformity. When a team go...

High-performing teams need more than talent, resources, & strategy. What separates truly effective teams is a secret ingredient - shared purpose - the unifying force aligning individuals beyond annual targets. Yet, many teams overlook the power of purpose, mistakenly focusing on business goals, ...

Passive-aggressive behaviour erodes trust, stifles collaboration, and damages productivity. Unlike open conflict, which at least allows issues to be addressed, passive-aggression festers beneath the surface, creating resentment and disengagement. Left unchecked, it can derail even the most competent...